I ran into a little spot of hurt feelings today, over a conversation that happened more than seven years ago. I brought it up as an example, just an intellectual debate point, unfortunately, the person I brought it up to, took it personally, and soon, so did I. Hurt feeling, bad memories, along with poorly chosen words- and timing, and voila- one of the prettiest days in weeks, destroyed by something that was done, dealt with, and over. Now, a fresh wound on an innocent soul.
Your past, or your reasons for your past- are over. Leave them there. Unless they are good things, or happy things, or things where you need to recall the experience to help you handle, or understand a present concern. There is no reason to rehash a past “fight”, disagreement, or misunderstanding, to make it reach the same end result now, today.
Keep the foundation of good things growing, and throw out the garbage. Bear in mind, it is impossible to change your past, only your present, which then changes your future, which becomes then, a better past! Whew. Did you follow that? LOL
Kevin who made up, and will remember the healing – hopefully, not the hurt.