Sometimes a little word like “Tolerance”, gets lost in the shuffle. In today’s wickedly quick changing world; some folks have forgotten that: “I don’t have to be wrong, for you to be right.” In a lot of situations- there are lots of “right ways” to do – or say- or be- something. Authoritarians would have you believe there is only one way. Nope.
If you like being on the water, you can use a float, a boat, a wave runner, a raft, a canoe, a sailboat, a yacht; no matter which you use; fun will be had. Why? Because the purpose was to get out on the water, how you do it isn’t as important. The Canoe guy, isn’t wrong, the girl on the wave rider, isn’t wrong, and the couple on the yacht – aren’t either. All of them, if they have little or no tolerance, will judge the other types of water vehicles- and their occupants, just from the kind of craft they are in. Making them “Wrong.”
Go to college, get a degree. Wrong. Not today- college is yet another business. Get a skill, get another skill, keep learning, and go back to school for something you want to learn, and you use college for education- bingo! Want a job or a career? If you don’t push yourself to find what you want out of life, you will end up spending a great deal of time living someone else’s dream. You like to work with your hands, then build things, or design things, or fix things. None of your choices will be wrong.
You don’t need a $40,000 Harley to enjoy riding a motorcycle. You can build one for less than 4 grand. You will have as much fun on the open road, as any big hog. It isn’t the money, or the style, or the price that gives you a thrill, it is the open road. There are as many ways to live your life, as you can possibly think of. People will always tell you how to live it- and they will be wrong. It is your life, even if they are right about the consequences you might face- life is not without risk. Risky behavior may lead to some lousy outcomes, but not taking a risk, can lead to a place where you never grow, you never have to think for yourself, and you stay stuck. Just barely living, although fully alive.
What you may want to consider, is changing the wording around. Instead of judgement calls : “Right or Wrong;” perhaps, you can switch to “Effective, or Ineffective.” Did what I did, get me what I wanted? No? Then you discard that ineffective way. Try another. Find a way that fits – it may be completely unexpected to workout for you – yet it does.
I left the Army to go into comedy. I gave up retirement and a career to pursue something I loved. Was I wrong? Maybe, the retirement pension looks mighty good from this end of my life. Yet, I got to do radio, TV, make commercials, and Industrial film, sail around the world, and perform in all fifty states and three other countries – without a degree in any of those fields. I have friends who are “famous”, I have been interviewed in many newspapers, and written a few articles and books, and produced DVD’s and CD’s – working with graphic designers and sound engineers. Not one asked me for my degree.
Was I wrong? Was I right? Who cares? I lived my life, mostly my way – and even if you think you are right about me; I wasn’t wrong. Neither are you.